Confidence boosting for your child
Is your child trying out something new for the first time, and you’re worried about how they might cope? Sometimes kids have the skills and the knowledge, but lack the confidence.
Psychologist Susan Quillam in her book “Your Child’s Body Language” suggests trying the following confidence-boosting exercise with children in late-primary and secondary school years, and those who are used to talking about body language:
- Remember a time when you were really confident about something. What was happening around you? What did you see and hear? What did you tell yourself? How did that feel? As you remember…
- Jog or bounce on the spot for a minute or two, just until you feel your physical energy building…
- Straighten your spine, pull up; tense then relax your limbs; grin; open your eyes wide, stare straight ahead and slightly upwards; say to yourself a phrase that gives you confidence, such as ‘I can do it’
- Then go for it
You know your child better than anyone else. Take the elements of this exercise, which merges mindful thinking and physical activity, and communicate the ideas in it in a way that you know your child will understand.
Try the exercise with them, and tell them about a time when you were worried about trying something new and how you got through it.